Surprised by motherhood........when your 17 year old surprises you........

My oldest daughter is 17. I think the age of 17 feels like the Twilight Zone. I know it does for me............ but maybe not for her.......

My oldest daughter is 17. I think the age of 17 feels like the Twilight Zone.
I know it does for me............ but maybe not for her......
This is the first time I have experienced having a child who is 17. 
And by the very fact that I just called her a child 
shows that I am having problems with the # 17. 
It has been a strange few months, this transition between childhood and adulthood.
These are a few of the things that I have learned as of late:

I have had to learn to have a conversation with her as an adult not a child. 
To not always be "teaching her" when I talk to her. 
Which I have learned lately that I do often.
I am learning to give her space to breathe and make mistakes. 
I am learning that she is her own person, which I always knew but it has become even more evident now.
I have also learned that even though it seems like we bump heads more,
 and words dart out
of our mouths that are painful. 
This 17 year old surprises me. 
This week I have received some sad news. Sad news concerning a friend, 
some doctor appointments that I went to that were emotionally draining and combine that
with new relational territory with my daughter it has not been easy.
After a long day of work ending at 8:00pm I went to pick her up at her work. 
I went in and it seemed as though she was wondering why I was there.
 She told me she had a ride home and I told her great and left. 
But in my heart I was wondering if she was irritated with me, 
 if she thought I was checking up on her and not giving her the space she needed.
I was wondering as I drove home if there was going to be conflict when she walked in the door.
When I got home I went in the house grabbed some dinner off the stove and 
proceeded to tell my husband that I thought the 17 yr old was irritated with me again.
I was trying to put it out of my mind but the look that I preceived from her lingered in my thoughts.
Someone rang the doorbell and I went to open it. It was my 17 year old. As soon as I opened the 
door she said "mom, are you okay?" and she hugged me........
and my tears began to flow............
she said " when I saw you at my work I knew something was wrong"
Oh my goodness...be still my heart....
She stood hugging me not letting go as tears rolled down my cheeks...........  
she rubbed my back and kissed my cheek........
lingering there.........
trying to comfort me just as I had done so many times for her.

Surprised by motherhood............
When your 17 year old becomes your comforter.

This post was inspired by LisaJo Baker and her book
Surprised by Motherhood
She tweeted and asked "how were you surprised by motherhood today"
This post was my answer.....

If you would like to read a few chapters of Lisa Jo Baker's new book here is a link
Surprised by Motherhood: 3 Chapter Digital Sample
Or if you would like to order her book
Surprised By Motherhood



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