Hope and rest in Him......

My first real experience with grief was when I was 21. My husband and I were just 4 months married and his father passed away. At a time ...

My first real experience with grief was when I was 21. My husband and I were just 4 months married and his father passed away. At a time when newlyweds experience their first months of wedded bliss our earliest months of marriage were overcast with shadows of grief. 
My husband was the eldest child and the only son in the family. He and his father were very close. They spent hours together, working on cars, hunting, fishing, playing poker and many other manly things. His father was my husband's best friend.
My husband was also his dad's name sake. His father was "big Willy" and my husband was "little Willy".
Two peas in a pod they were. 
They had a special bond.
My father in law had been experiencing pain in his ribs for an extended amount of time and he thought that it was the result of a work injury. As months went by the pain only got worse. Trips to the chiropractor, trips to the doctor brought no relief. Our wedding was in December and Big Willy was the best man. Little did we know, he later told us this, he was experiencing so much pain he could barely stand up at our wedding. In January, Big Willy continued to go to the doctor, referred to specialists in February.
In March was diagnosed with cancer, and passed away in the hospital on 
April 1st of an anuerysm from the treatments. I vividly remember that day.
My husband and I were sitting in our small mobile home at the kitchen table. The phone rang. My husband picked it up and answered it. I remember the look of seriousness on his face, with small responses. He put the phone down....told me Big Willy had died and immediately left the trailer. I remember sitting there as the feelings of disbelief  washed over me. I remember feelings of fear  and worry overcoming me. Fear of how would my husband feel, what would he do? He had been believing and praying that his father would recover. He had spent hours at his home talking to him, speaking faith into him, praying for him,
believing for a miracle...................but no miracle came.
He had lost................. his best friend.
In the days, the weeks, the months and even years, I was a witness of grief. Grief for a time swallowed my husband. It stole from him as well as from his family. We became imprisoned by grief. I learned in that time, that grief is cruel, and knows no limit. It changes people, it can compel a person to become someone they never thought they would be. The ache can go on, and on as the person attempts to make sense of it all. It is only as the person comes to the end of them self
 and totally accepts that God is still God......... peace, can then come.
It took years for our family to recover. In the midst of it all I was schooled in compassion, patience, selflessness and most of all love. Many times I was impatient, and I was frustrated with the path of grief and what it was doing to my husband and to me. Through it I learned to put my hope in God. The Father who is always there. The one who never disappoints, the one who is always patient, the one who fills my spirit, and strengthens me.

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Cindy Fincher: Hope and rest in Him......
Hope and rest in Him......
Cindy Fincher
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